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Wow – what a lousy thing to say!

April 29, 2011

Yesterday Alison Buckholtz was on an NPR program – talking about the new Blue Star Family PSA about suicides – “I don’t know what it’s like”.     Clay Hunt’s mother (Clay was an IAVA member and former Marine who lost his battle with PTS and depression, committing suicide a little while ago), as well as a fellow veteran who served with him were also on the show.  There is a place for comments – and someone called Penny Lane decided to add some nastiness to the show

I, for one, am tired of being made to feel guilty and ungrateful.  …. Thank you for your service, but you volunteered.

Young people kill themselves every day, without experiencing the horror of war. I don’t know how you can claim to be different or special.

Really?  this is what you say to the mother of someone who served FOR YOU?  this is what you say to a veteran?  this is what you say to a military spouse?  you should be glad you didn’t say this to them or to me face to face… because personally, I’d have decked you. Are you one of the 1%? I doubt it.  NONE of us, no matter what we feel about a war, the rightness or wrongness, the validity of the reasons for a war – would dare to say that.  We understand, you sure as hell don’t.

A good friend and guest author on Left Face wrote a great response to this at Smurfoflauge Cafe.  I think she says it terribly well.

Penny Lane – you show an amazing lack of class, an amazing lack of good taste or manners.


2 Comments leave one →
  1. April 29, 2011 10:23 am

    Really, I have no words for these comments. I was immediately disgusted, angered, shocked…I can’t even begin to understand what is happening in the US when we speak out about the rising suicide rate in the military and are confronted by people that think we want to be called “special”? How on earth will we ever solve this problem? And it is exactly why military spouses don’t speak out-because we are time and time again confronted with the belief that we are supposed to be strong and just suck it up. Lately I almost have to stay off of all comment threads because no one has anything decent to say. It is disheartening to say the least.

  2. May 5, 2011 4:26 am

    The freedom that the military provides our citizens also protects the most distasteful forms of ignorance as well.

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