One More person gets it
I’ve been sitting on this – I didn’t know how to say what I wanted to say – and where to post it. I hope this isn’t going to upset any of our new readers -HI Welcome!!
The other day – I had a conversation with a young woman at my office. She had listened to a radio show interview– Bringing home the fallen – on WAMU (the local Public Radio station). The interviews were of the Marines who are tasked to escort the fallen Marines from the plane that brought them home, to the mortuary. Here’s a link to it… It’s amazing. It reduced her to tears (when I found it on line, and heard it… I sniffled too.) She sought me out, to ask me a few questions.
What hit me so hard – was the first question she asked me. How do you deal with that possibility? Do you think about it? It took me a minute. I remembered a discussion on another blog – about planning our service member’s funeral. Now to me, that’s a fact of life, it’s perhaps not normal to anyone who isn’t military, but it is to me and to many other military family members. I told her yes, I had thought about it, I had even planned both my son’s funeral and my husband’s. I didn’t have to finalize those plans. My husband and I talked about it, after he realized that it would help me if we did, if we made some decisions so I didn’t have to do during that awful time, it if I had to.
For the first time, I think she got it. She realized that deployments aren’t just a lousy way to spend a marriage; that the military means more than separation; that we are in many ways very different than civilians and their families.
Then, a few days later.. I got asked (by someone else) where Baghdad was, and why was my husband there…. sigh… I suppose we have to do this one person at a time!